One of the first things that my therapist had me monitor and amend my behaviour about was negative self-talk. You know exactly what I mean. The many times throughout the day where you call yourself names – ranging from stupid to clumsy.
We are remarkably unkind to ourselves, and it is a habit that we pass on to other people. One way to counteract it, after you have become aware of it, is to compliment yourself. There is absolutely nothing wrong about taking a moment to reflect and be proud of your achievement.
Valuing yourself does not devalue anyone else.