How to add an email address and set it up in Gmail

Hello blog,

I have been helping the lovely Jules from Heart Mama Blog with some of the technical bits. Among the items on her wishlist was to create a new email account linked to her domain name and link it to Gmail. Since Jules, can’t be the only person with this question, I decided to blog this tutorial about how to create an email account on your domain and link it to Gmail.

There are two assumptions here:
1) The hosting account uses cPanel
2) You have a pre-existing Gmail account

Step one: Login to cPanel

When you sign up with your host and get an email they should send an email with details for a cPanel login. Otherwise you can usually access your cPanel by typing your domain followed by :2083 (so for example:

Step two: Scroll down to the section headed email and click on email accounts








Step three: Create your email account with your choice of email address and password.

email_accountGenerally, a mailbox quota of 250MB is more than sufficient but you can change the size if you want to.

Make sure you can remember your password! You will need it when you are linking the account to Gmail.
After you have completed all of those details click: “Create Account”.

After you have created the email address, a little green box will temporarily appear saying that the account has been created.

set_up_mail_clientIn the list of email accounts click on the link that says: “Set Up Mail Client”.

Step four: Scroll down to manual settings




Step five: Login to Gmail and go to settings

settings_iconClick on the wrench icon on the top right of the screen above your mailbox.  Choose settings from the dropdown menu that appears.

Step 6: Go to the accounts and import tab

Click on the accounts tab on the top of the settings menu:



Step 7: Scroll down to Check email from other accounts

check_email_pop3 Click on “Add a POP3 mail account that you own”. A pop up window will appear. (If the pop up does not appear check your address bar and allow Gmail to create popups).

Step 8: Add the account details in the Pop-up window:

First you will be prompted to add the email address. Then click “Next step”.
The pop-up will then change. This pop-up will now show you:

Using the details from the “Secure SSL/TLS Settings” that you got in step 4. Complete this pop-up. Make sure that the port number matches the number from your settings.

Important: Make sure that “Always use a secure connection (SSL) when retrieving mail.” is checked.

After you have completed that step click “Add Account.”

Step 9: Success


Step 10: Choose if you want to send email from the account.

If you don’t then you are done and just need to choose “No” and click “Finish” . However, if you want to be able to send mail, then keep “Yes” selected and press “Next Step >>”

Step 11: Set up your name and choose whether to treat as an alias:

I generally uncheck “Treat mail as an alias” and if you are the only person who uses your gmail account you want to do that to. If you have it unchecked the email account will behave the same way as your Gmail account works. ( You can find out more about treating an email address as an alias in Gmail here.)

send_mail_1Click “Next Step”.

Step 12: Complete the server details

Once again use the manual settings from step 4.  Make sure the SMTP server name and port number match those in your settings. Select Secured connection, using SSL.  Click “Add account”


Step 13: Verify sending permission


You may need to open your Gmail account and go to the settings again (see steps five to seven if you need help) and scroll down to the Pop3 accounts and click on “Check mail now”.  After you press “Verify” the popup will disappear.

You can either click the link in that email or enter the code and click “Verify”. After that you are done! Send yourself a test email to check it out.

Love and tech support,

If this helped you out, please let me know in the comments. Or if you need help, drop me a comment with that:)

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Hello again WordPress development, I missed you

Hello blog,

I have not done much website development lately. We had planned for me to go back to freelancing when Lucas turned one, but life happened with a ton of bricks, first with my mom-in-law getting admitted into hospital, and after we had got the ground back under us and said that I would start in the new year of 2016, with my dad’s  murder. And so, I have not really done much coding.

The other day on Facebook a blogger asked for a bit of help which I thought would take less than an hour to sort out, and so I offered my assistance. I am very glad I did.

First, I learnt that some WordPress themes that offer custom headers actually display only the image even if you have the option to show site-title and description enabled. So I went in and had a look at the header file and the functions file.

When I am doing any kind of modification to a site I generally go straight for a child-theme, and I usually write my own functions straight away. This time, I didn’t, I first had a look at the theme’s header file, which referenced this function:

function adelle_theme_heading() {
 if( get_header_image() == true ) { ?>
 <a href="<?php echo esc_url( home_url() ); ?>">
 <img src="<?php header_image(); ?>" class="header-title" height="
<?php echo get_custom_header()->height; ?>" width="<?php echo 
get_custom_header()->width; ?>" alt="<?php bloginfo( 'name' ); ?>" 
title="<?php bloginfo( 'name' ); ?>" />
 <?php } elseif( is_home() || is_front_page() ) { ?>
 <h1><a href="<?php echo esc_url( home_url() ); ?>" 
class="header-title"><?php bloginfo( 'name' ); ?></a></h1>
 <p class="header-desc"><?php bloginfo( 'description' ); ?></p>
 <?php } else { ?>
 <h5><a href="<?php echo esc_url( home_url() ); ?>" 
class="header-title"><?php bloginfo( 'name' ); ?></a></h5>
 <p class="header-desc"><?php bloginfo( 'description' ); ?></p>
 <?php }

So I saw that the problem was in the first few lines, with the fact that there was no reference to get_bloginfo(‘title’) and get_bloginfo(‘description’). As a personal preference I use the WordPress builtin functions of get_bloginfo which retrieves the information rather than simply displaying it as is the case of bloginfo , and that I was actually unfamiliar with before encountering this theme.

I don’t know what I was thinking when I decided to try and complicate matters and re-write this function, instead of creating my own and create a theme header file. But I spent a great deal of time banging my head against that wall before sanity prevailed and I created header.php so that this child theme consisted of: functions.php, style.css and header.php. The relevant portion of  my header ended up looking like this:

<h1 class="title"> <a href="<?php echo get_bloginfo('home_url')?>"
<?php echo get_bloginfo('title'); ?> </a></h1>
 <p><?php echo get_bloginfo('description'); ?></p>
 <div class="header_image" 
 <?php if( get_header_image() == true ) { ?> >
 <img src="<?php header_image(); ?>" class="header-title" height=" 
<?php echo get_custom_header()->height; ?>" width="<?php echo 
get_custom_header()->width; ?>" alt="<?php bloginfo( 'name' ); ?>" 
title="<?php bloginfo( 'name' ); } ?>" />
 </div><!--header image-->

I have realised that I enjoy the puzzles and frustrations of code not working and then being fixed and so I need to start doing it again.

Love and development,

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Some practical tips for helping someone who has lost a loved one

No one’s ever lost forever
When they die they go away
But they will visit you occasionally
Do not be afraid
No one’s ever lost forever
They are caught inside your heart
If you garden them and water them
They make you what you are
-Lost by Amanda Palmer and the Grand Theft Orchestra

Hello blog,

I know it has been a while. Life has been challenging, I faced major illness and I lost another loved one. This time a cousin.  Last week one of our neighbour’s passed away as well. Having some experience with grief I thought I would share some dos and don’ts that can help someone with loss:

Firstly, be sensitive to the person’s feelings. It should not need to be said, but unfortunately it does, don’t ask excessive questions about the circumstances surrounding the loss. If the person wants to share details they will. This is especially important in the case of a violent death. Curiosity is a huge motivator of human behaviour but check yourself. Don’t ask for doing so you are likely to add to the trauma that they are experiencing. However, if the loved one wants to reminisce let them. You can share memories or just listen to them.

Secondly,  offer practical assistance. Death is upsetting, even if it comes after a long illness and carrying on with life can be a challenge. So, offer to help with the grocery shopping/ taking some food and general logistics. If you are willing and able: provide your phone number and answer your phone when they call.  If you are not willing or able, then don’t say that they can call at any stage. Be realistic.

Thirdly, remember that grief doesn’t have an expiration date nor a fixed timeline. There is a bit of a societal expectation that after a certain period, one should simply get over the loss of a loved one. And in my experience, it doesn’t work that way.   The memories of a loved one are a part of who you are, and strange things will remind you of them.

Love, kindness and grief,

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Extraordinary allegations require extraordinary proof

Hello computer,

My Facebook feed has been alive with the accusations that the #FeesMustFall students burnt down an auditorium at the University of Johannesburg. Most of these accusations stem from the statement made from the university. When I attended that fine institution I learnt about something very important, and it is this: In this country, we have a presumption of innocence. I also learned about the burden of proof and that the burden rests on the accuser, not on the accused.

The University of Johannesburg has made some pretty intense allegations without providing proof and it is our job as society to question the absence of proof. A number of friends, and former alumni have said that they believe the university would never do anything untoward and surely would not make unfounded accusations. I would like to believe that too, but belief is not proof. And the more serious the allegations are the more convincing proof required.

I am friends with Tracey Lomax, who posted the following on Facebook:

The allegations that ‪#‎FeesMustFall‬ activists caused the fire at UJ are ones which I find personally disturbing, because many of the people who are being tainted with the “arson” brush are students that I have worked with, and who have long denounced the destruction of property as a way to make their point.

It is, however, an awfully good way to make students lose credibility in the eyes of the public. Something which the Universities would find extremely helpful.

I have not been able to find an official statement regarding the following about the fact that there is no CCTV footage in the areas around the fire:

I hope that the fire at UJ was actually accidental. If it is proved not to be, then those responsible need to be held accountable by a court of law, not the court of public opinion or social media.

I hope that the students and faculty and administrators find a way to engage on the main issues surrounding #FeesMustFall. For the purpose of clarification, the main issues about #FeesMustFall are:

  • Affordable and accessible quality education for all
  • The end of outsourcing
  • The decolonization of institutions

In a number of ways, the #FeesMustFall movement is a call to realize the rights enshrined in the Bill of Rights.  And that is something worth remembering and advocating for.


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Walking in another’s shoes

Hello Computer,

I have been sick for the past couple of days. Nothing major a touch of stomach flu followed by a cold. This bout with ill-health really made me appreciate and admire those who live in chronic pain.  I am friends with a small number of people who live with their invisible illnesses, and after my adventures in pain I am in awe of them.

I read a quote on Facebook, describing a visit to a medical practitioner with chronic illness (quoted from a Tumblr):

going to the doctor when you’re chronically ill is weird.

It’s like imagine everything in your house is on fire, and you’re standing there and the fire department come in like, describe the fire to me and maybe we can find what caused it and put it out.

and you can’t just say everything so you’re like… well the fire in the curtain is the biggest
but the fire in the photo albums might be doing the most damage
also the fire in the couch is really inconvenient

occasionally the fire guy is like, well your tv is on fire so it might be electronic-fireitus but that would cause other things like fire in the dvd player

and you’re like, oh yes. that’s been on fire for years. I forgot to mention it because it’s always been a relatively small fire. It’s right next to the bookshelf which has much more fire.

and then the fire guy is like, oh. I wouldn’t worry about that. book shelf fire just happens sometimes.

I am experiencing a new level of empathy to those who live life with a chronic illness, especially accompanied by pain. I am in extra awe of those who parent while ill.  I salute those who live life happily and fully in spite of their pain. I salute the way that you don’t constantly wallow in misery, and don’t happen to slap the healthy people who have the odd misadventures in ill-health with a frying pan shouting something along the lines of: THIS IS WHAT MY LIFE IS LIKE ALL THE TIME! DO YOU HEAR ME CONSTANTLY COMPLAIN? NOPE! THEN GET OVER YOURSELF!

Love and health,


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Mother’s day gifts

Hello Computer,

I have noticed a trend with so many places they are all advertising mother’s day specials. I have been thinking about it, I don’t think Mother’s Day should be about the purchased presents…When the time comes if Lucas does start doing Mother’s Day gifts I want the kitschy handmade wonky gifts made with love. The gifts that he has created. I just think that they will mean more than boxes of chocolates. He can bake me a cake or make me breakfast and do lots of little things. Because Mother’s Day is about love not about the commercialism.

Love and anti-consumerism,

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Now we are two

Dear Lucas,

You have grown so much in the past year. You have learnt to walk and started to talk. Your favourite game at the moment is hide and seek. You love cars, and cuddling your stuffed doggie. You know your animals, and still give the best hugs. You are a social little one but you do like to recharge with time alone with us. You are starting to figure out blocks and love bubbles (which your Aunty Cams introduced you to).  You play with puzzles but have not quite figured out the jigsaws yet. You love music and dancing.

It has been tough for the last little while, and I have not been the mother that I would like to be, but I have been the best mother that I can be in the circumstances. We will keep muddling through and doing the best that we can.

We took our first trip into the bush a few weeks ago and you loved it, and had great fun pointing out “Bokkies!”

I am so blessed to have you in my life and love you more than words can express.

Happy birthday sweetheart!


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I am battling with expectations at the moment, and the person whose expectations that  I am fighting the most is me.

So this is a reminder that it is okay to not be perfect. It is okay to mess up. It is okay to try to fix it. It’s okay to still be figuring things out.

Love and imperfection,

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Connection: Baby likes fake sneezes!

One of Lucas’s favourite books is Chu’s Day by Neil Gaiman. Last year, for his birthday I wrote about him flipping to the fake sneezes and loving it greatly. And so when I read this portion of Neil Gaiman’s blog:

He likes it when I pretend to sneeze.

I had to giggle and share it with Riaan.

Love and connections,

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Not quite the mom I want to be

Hello Computer,
I am blessed to be able to describe myself as a full-time mom and part time web designer. I appreciate the time that I get to spend with Lucas but sometimes I envy the working moms. I think that it is natural for us to look at what other people have and to not necessarily be satisfied with our lot. But, I feel so terrible for not being more appreciative right now.

messI feel like I am not the mom who I want to be at the moment. I want us to be more organized and have a week’s meals figured out without the help of the Daily Dish. I want to not collapse in exhaustion when my husband comes home…and yet, I know at the moment I need to cut myself some slack.

I know that I will figure it out, and I can take advantage of the time that I do spend with Lucas. I love reading to him and cuddling with him watching television together. And there are precious moments in the bath. I want us to have a more of a routine but I don’t have the energy to figure it out for us yet.

My life is currently in chaos, and I suppose I need to embrace it for now. Acknowledging that life is messy, but that I can clean it up one step at a time.

Love and chaos,

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